My dad has a gambling issue and has had it for now maybe, over 10 years. At first my mum had full trust in him and our family was a happy family, then over time, she became more and more crazy. Most of the family thought, maybe it's just her, maybe she has a sharp tongue however it must be that my dad has made her this way with his gambling issue.
We never went on any holidays ever, not one. Normally people go on holidays with their family maybe 3/4 times minimum during their childhood. We never went once, even though my dads mother cries to see us and she cannot because anytime we save money, we lose money. This is because my dad cannot stop gambling and recently he just gambled some more and i can hear my mother crying. She is not going crazy as she normally does, she is just crying silently. Like she has lost hope. I wanna kill my dad honestly. This will never stop, ever. And when i grow up, I want to be able to gift my parents money but this cannot be because my dad will find it, and steal it, and then lose it while gambling.
This is very sad because my younger siblings used to ask for basic stuff which we cannot afford. My mother mentioned this but he still gambles. When my mother goes crazy at him, he will pray for a few days and she thinks maybe he will stop gambling because he is praying. But I believe he is only praying to put up a false image (shirk) therefore he is not praying for Allah, but for the people. He stops gambling for a while, and once we saved up some money, he will steal it somehow and then lose it all. At one point he lost £12 grand. That is equiavelnt to 17k dollars. That is a LOT for a family who is barely on minimum wage.
His gambling done many things:
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lost of my mothers and families trust
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Shirk because based on my belief he is only praying (few days/weeks after gambling) for the people to think he changed, not Allah (I could be wrong). Also he prays EXTREMELY FAST and when someone walks by hes eyes follow them WTF?!
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We don't have any money to do anything like go on holidays or give my younger siblings (very young) some gifts or make them happy with toys and whatnot, hell my younger brother who is only 13/14 had to save up for his own laptop and a very cheap one to do homework from school
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Always fights happen due to this addiction and it made my mother crazy, now she is no longer crazy and by crazy i don't mean in general but in the moment when she gets angry she goes all out. He changed her for the worse.
I remember crying and praying for him once in private because i thought the family didn't treat him well, little did we know it was his fault for destroying the family in the first place. He destroyed my mum through his habit, destroyed the family trust and unity, it's constantly fighting and no good for my under 6 year old sibling to witness huge arguments all the time.
I would ask people to make du'a, but my dad will never stop this. NEVER. Sometimes you would wish they would just divorce and leave, but that is haram for me to suggest breaking of ties. It would be much better for our family if the did split, better connection, less fights and someone secure financially. Benefits is better than making money and then losing it all again, right? You might think it's disgusting even suggesting divorce, but this would on a religious scale, financial scale, happiness scale and emotional and mental scale would be sooo much better.
What y'all think? Any advice would be appreciated. my is young too so there is very little i can do in the financial department.
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