Hello, I am 26 female living in America. I live with my uncle, his wife and their kids. Their kids are 10 plus years younger than me so I dont wear hijab in front of them, thats MY PREFERENCE. Anyways My aunts brothers come over to the house allll the time and She makes me observe hijab in front of them. Anyways she has 3 brothers and they all come at different times of the day and I kid you not she makes tea, and food for each of them. All the while chatting them up without a care with them. Anyways she doesnt clean up after herself everytime she cooks for them, so the dishes, pots and pans pile up big time. And she has gotten accustomed to me cleaning up after her. EVEN when I havent eaten allll day, I eat maybe once a day and I ALWAYS clean up after myself. God forgive me if I dont clean up right away, she reminds me and is like “why havent you cleaned up? At the very least clean up after yourself. Youre a woman, I dont need to cook for you, cook for yourself and clean up after yourself”. Anyways Im sick and tired of her Bull. She treats Men as if theyre gods gift to earth and her and i are just service tools for them to command, use and we have to obey them. Her voice literally changes pitch when she speaks to men.. I dont feel like Im obligated to clean up after any of her brothers, or anyone that I have to cover up in front of them. And its not like a once in a while deal, her brothers come EVERY DAY all at their own convenience.. and she enjoys them and their conversation. When my baby sisters come (theyre christian) she does not do anything for them or even takes care of the dishes.... or when I cook family dinner she doesnt help me. I dont want to continue her treating me as a tool, what can I say or do to let her know I wont tolerate this. I feel her brothers are not my responsibility to clean after them.
TL;DR: i live with my uncle and his family. My uncles wives BROTHERS (3) come day in and day out at different times to eat and drink tea. And my uncles wife cooks for each of them their own special meals... she doesnt even cook for me ever. Regardless I feel like im not responsible to clean up after Non-mahrams that come over day in and day out to eat. Especially when I havent eaten at all all day.. How do i convey this respectfully to my uncles wife?
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