Hello, all! Throwaway as my friend has an account :)
My best friend, Muslim, is getting married in 3 months. So far , I am the only person outside her community she invited. I could totally ask her this, but she is so busy with the actual wedding, and I don't want to sound rude or clueless - we have talked about Islam (mostly her answering my questions) but the topic of marriage has never come up.
I'm not sure if she is considered super traditional, as she covers herself (hijab and long clothes), is very serious following teaching (pardon me if this is not the correct way to say it but english is not my first language) like food restrictions, times of prayer, etc - on the other hand, the listens to music (which, if I recal, is up for discussion), has male friends (doesn't get super close though) and has some quite liberal social opinions.
I'm trying to avoid a huge wall of text, so here's my questions:
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Is it adequate for me to wear traditional clothes? She was born here but is of Indian descent, and I know the wedding will be traditional. She asked if I wanted traditional clothing (a sari, to be exact) and I do, as it feels like a great way to show respect for her and for the event itself, but I'm not sure if I won't be offending anyone, especially older members of both families.
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I'm not sure if the religious ceremony will be outside on an event location or in a mosque - I know that I should cover my hair at the mosque, but should I cover my hair if the ceremony is in another place?
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What is considered a thoughtful gift? I don't have a lot of money to spend, but I do want to give something nice. Money is always a good idea, right? What's a reasonable amount?
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I considered adding some donation in the name of the couple to an organization - any suggestions?
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I also though about writing something meaningful about life as a wed couple in the gift card - is it inappropriate to take a passage from the Quran?
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Should I bring a gift for the "bachelorette party" (manjha, I think)? What?
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Is it appropriate for us girlfriends to take her out for a responsible bachelorette's party (just a nice bar with drinks and music), tiara and "bride to be" ribbon? :)
I'm sorry if any of these questions make me look like a fool. I just really love her and don't want to embarrass her (and myself). Any other suggestions are deeply appreciated.
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