Assalamu 'Alaikum
I'll get straight to it.
I have a very strained relationship with my sisters. They are both very toxic people when interacting with me. They never start conversations with me unless I start first. I think I went three weeks without talking to them a single time once just as a test to see how long they go without talking to me.
They never involve me in anything. Whenever there are family activities that I would love to take part in, it never occurs to them to invite me along. Because of this, I feel very estranged. Just now, they baked some brownies and had planned to go to the park with my mum and other cousins but no-one even thought to invite me. They didn't even offer me a brownie before they left which was very hurtful. When I asked for one, my older sister in a very rude way said "Why don't you say please?" and my mum started telling them in "Why don't you give him one it's not gonna hurt you if you give him one?" and after that I said "I don't want one if they don't willingly want to give it."
I am familiar with some hadith that mentioned the one who breaks relationship will not enter paradise or something.
But honestly, I really despise their character so much to the point that if they were not my sisters, I would steer clear of them by a mile. My big sister is the most entitled person you can imagine. Honestly I can say story after story of where she was in the wrong and my parents FORCED ME to apologise just because I'm younger wallahi.
I really don't know what to do. If it was anyone else that wasn't a family member, I would have cut them out years ago but because they are family, I am scared that if I stop talking to them I will make Allah angry. But they are so toxic to me. They are impossible to talk to and be around. We have nothing in common except we came from the same mother but that is literally it.
I would appreciate some advice.
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