I am stunned and shocked based on a previous thread

I am stunned and shocked based on a previous thread that

1. The barbaric and unislamic practice of virginity testing of women by so-called doctors is a common practice and accepted in so many countries around the world as a precursor to marriage. This has really shaken me to my core that in this day and age this still goes on and that men are excluded from a lie detector or any sort of test themselves.
2. People lack so much compassion that it is normal in our communities outright disregard widows, divorcees, older women and rape victims to marry despite the fact that islam came as one of the first major religions to encourage noble men to marry women who have been married before as the prophet himself did. I even got a PM from an individual who stated that divorcees and widows should be left by the wayside and they should no longer be involved in society. I am very blessed in my family that my parents encouraged us to be super open minded and my brothers have married a variety of women from all different backgrounds including older, convert, divorcee, etc....I was fooled into thinking that following sunnah in this way was the norm but guess I was existing in a bubble.
3. That it is considered normal or reasonable to expect your wife not to marry after your death. for me this was the most shocking of all I would never agree to such a marriage contract and am shocked anyone else would do the same. People these days are expected to live to 100, should my husband die prematurely whilst I am still 35 or even whilst I'm 70 I would rush to re-marry another pious man and I couldn't marry a man who wouldn't want that happiness for me after his passing.
4. So many people conflate being pure and chaste with being a virgin. Many people who are pure and chaste and the best of us in the ummah are NOT virgins. A rape victim is still pure, a divorcee is still pure and widow is still pure a convert is still pure. With rates of rape and sexual assualt as high as they are (16% in the USA, 83% in Egypt), with rates of domestic violence what they are, with so many of our so called fellow brothers out there causing pain for women in their life it seems to be heartless and unislamic to then turn around a say a woman who divorced from a bad marriage or who was raped is now not worthy of marriage.

All these things make me wonder if we are trying to build a good Islamic society or are we trying to play out the handmaids tale ???

Disclaimer: I think zina is wrong.

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