We all have our fair share of family issues. We love them, but man sometimes its just...am I right? It was interesting to see in this verse, Allah does not shy away from some realities in terms of the struggle we have between fulfilling our duties to Allah and family hostility, harshness or hurtful sarcasm.
Now when we read this verse, we can get all excited and think, "well, if Allah just said I could possibly have enemies within my family members, its time to put my mean face on. For the sake of Allah of course". Nope, not exactly. This verse is in no way shape or form giving you license to curse, hate or become hostile towards them. (Taqi Usmani, Surah 64).
With a beautiful surprising twist, Allah uses the terms of pardoning, overlooking and forgiving all in one package in regards to this matter. Pardoning here with the word "Afuw", which means treating the matter as if it never happened. Overlooking with the word "Esfahoo", which means to literally turn a new page and start on a clean state of mind, with no malice or envy. And finally ultimately, forgive them.
What's even more interesting, is that in the whole Quran, you will never find these three terms used. In fact, when Allah tells us how to deal with the people of book who may be hostile towards us, only two of those words are used! Its remarkable, that family gets this much emphasis. Family needs to be the recipient of the most patience and forbearing we can ever achieve. Family needs your A game. They deserve the most excuses. They deserve your smiles, even in the worst circumstances. T
Its like Allah knows this struggle really well, He knows the whole gist of how hard family dynamics can be. I find that comforting. Maybe not feel so awful about how often my emotions can fluctuate towards them, but rather put my focus on how to respond appropriately, patiently and gently. Its not always easy, but its lovely to see how Allah set up the frame for our mindset for these scenarios.
Finally, Allah reminds you of His own vast mercy and forgiveness to remind you every time when you have the dilemma to be either acting upon your own inclination or rising to a divinely inspired moral character.
This goes hand in hand with the Prophet's (s) Hadith about the fact that the best of us is the one who is best to his family. This is one of the many examples, where you find an obvious parallel between the Sunnah and the Quran. And putting these together really strengthen this concept I fee.
May Allah make us the best to our families. Ameen.
Sources:
Maaraful Quran by Taqi Usmani, Surah 64.
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